“Observation opens the way to understanding when one is not attached to ones own image or to one’s shortcomngs or defects, whatever they may be. So, it purifies, it cleanses. All the images that one has constructed about oneself break down completely. And understanding collects all these pieces and throws them away. They are unnecessary. The image-making business has no room in the life of a person who lives by understanding and not by knowledge. So he collects whatever broken pieces of the images he has constructed of himself in his life and puts them away: he doesn’t make a bonfire and invite other people to see it. He does it quietly. This is renunciation: not having a single image of oneself. That is the essence of renunciation, sannyasa.
So the understanding of the psychological structure, the patterns of psychological behavior, the conditionings, one’s addiction to those patterns, all these when understood in relationships, prove in the awareness of their limitations to be very dynamic. So such a person then moves in relationships in humility and in receptivity, eager to learn from the challenges of daily life unfolding itself through relationships. Learning from the challenges is the inhaling of life, and unfolding oneself as one is, through relationships, is the exhaling of life. A person who knows how to inhale and to exhale is fresh. Isn’t that so? You know the art and science of inhaling and exhaling. When you are exhaling the breath, the whole of the breath that you have taken in and that entered the different parts of the body gets exhaled, so that the carbon dioxide does not get pressurized behind some organ, does not get chocked up behind some muscles or glands. Unless you exhale the whole of the carbon dioxide, you cannot take in the oxygen, the fresh breath, and, therefore, the blood is not oxidized and you don’t feel fresh. Inhaling and exhaling have their own elements. In exhaling, some residue of the inhaling may be left behind. Then you feel dull. Then you get heavy. But, if you know how to exhale graciously, gracefully, not with a jerk, smoothly, then the inhaling also has a joy.” Vimala Thakar from “Blossoms of Friendship“. Pgs. 78-79